Me and my husband have been together for a very long time...over a decade. Today we had a big blow up and after arguing I said to myself I feel like I married the devil.
I don't understand how someone can repeatedly hurt you, fight with you, argue with you, put you down, tell you not to work, and put down you down in every aspect of you life. It's very hurtful, it makes you feel low as scum, it tears down your self esteem, it has you crying uncontrollably, and it makes you feel like a failure.
I'm so fed up with his bull.
I was sitting at the dining room table and he was walking after the door later after our argument and I heard something say to me you married the devil. For so many years I was so anger at him and struggled with low self-esteem, but I got into a church that really feed me the word and a lot things in my life began to change.
Do I actually feel like I married the devil...no, but do I believe I am in a battle with the enemy....yes. My husband doesn't attend church that much. And I think he likes it that way, but I attend church regularly and participate in church activities, so my life is completely different than what it was four years ago.
Now that I am a little bit more saved, I as starting to wonder, am I really in a battle with the enemy.
Saturday, October 12, 2013
I Have a Lazy Ungrateful Husband
I have a lazy ungrateful husband: My husband can't deal with life reality
Hello everybody, I just need to let this out somehow, sorry about the bad English, Ill make a few mistakes cause its not my native language. I'm married to a Quebecois and I'm away from my family, but that its not a big problem to me. We have a baby of 9 months and he is the most pretty little guy, he is very expressive, very happy and its very loved by us.
The things is that my husband is lately turning into that type of man that has this face like everything is preventing him to have his own life, like he wish he was somewhere else. Whenever I ask him any favor (throwing the garbage, cleaning dishes, if I ever do!) he says in a while at first and if I insist a lot he does it barely and it would be better if I had done myself cause the dishes will be super dirty. Yesterday we went to the supermarket and we forgot the milk as usual (always the milk) and he had to come back, he gave me a really hard time like always. I mean, hello? We got to do what we got to do right? And that's it, there's not much to discuss about it or make a fuss... he is always super over dramatic about any house tasks. All he wants to do its sit his lazy butt in front of the PC or the TV and play games. on his time off of work.
I work too and make the same money as him, only I have to work less than him, but I don't think that gives him the right not to even put his plate on the sink after dinner. He never even feed the baby because takes too long, he might give the bottle and that's it. I cant even leave the baby with him because he wont change the diaper and the baby will be sitting on the chair all day crying next to him. I am so tired of he's way of dealing with things I wish I could just leave him, and be by myself. But there are too much expenses right now. The thing is that he is using a lot of coursing language and that is not good for the baby especially. He is really selfish and likes to start a fight in public, calling me annoying bit** and telling me to shut the fu** up in front of people in supermarket over nothing, really.
Come on what is that? Its a nightmare, its the typical uneducated people behavior when frustrated about something. I feel so ashamed that I turn red. I have no words to describe how much I think its humiliating and awful to share our personal problems with people outside that has nothing to do with it. I feel ridiculous, and after he cooled down of he's craziness he never says he's sorry about it, not that I can find a way in my heart to forgive this over and over, its pathetic. Even he's mom is so disappointed with him, she tells me he was always selfish. I should have known that he was trouble since the beginning because he seemed so immature on the way he interpreted feelings and peoples behavior. He simply cant take a look inside, he thinks he's the nice cute funny and charming guy and he actually tells me that if I leave him it would be so easy for him to date even hotter girls than me. That I am actually starting to look old. Hello I'm 25 ***hole, and I am a lady who is raising your baby with love and doing everything she can to make it all worthwhile for our family. And just for the record, most of his friends make fun of him telling him that the baby is only cute because he's wife is pretty. I am not an annoying wife who is always complaining and acting insane, also. What does he want, I wonder? He has a destructive behavior that I just cant fix it, I'm not a psychologist and he is not trying at all.
The worst part is that he is so lovely to other people that nobody would have any idea of what a bastard he really is. I deserve better than this, and this is not healthy for my baby. I need to make a move and cant right now. He always destroys moments that were supposed to be nice, like today I don't even feel like cooking turkey and everything for Christmas, it was supposed to be a nice time, my brother is arriving today to stay with us.
This is not what I had in mind, why did I married this guy? I started to think that most of men are secretly bastards who cant deal with the reality of life and live in fantasies of I don't know, an easy life without problems? I just think he lacks of passion for life, he gives up too easily in anything and everything. I'm quite the opposite and I feel like he always tries to hurt my feelings because he is self-destructive. I don't even feel sorry for him anymore. I just wonder, the day I leave him, I really hope he grows up as a person, because there's no woman in this world that would stay with someone so selfish.
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Hello everybody, I just need to let this out somehow, sorry about the bad English, Ill make a few mistakes cause its not my native language. I'm married to a Quebecois and I'm away from my family, but that its not a big problem to me. We have a baby of 9 months and he is the most pretty little guy, he is very expressive, very happy and its very loved by us.
The things is that my husband is lately turning into that type of man that has this face like everything is preventing him to have his own life, like he wish he was somewhere else. Whenever I ask him any favor (throwing the garbage, cleaning dishes, if I ever do!) he says in a while at first and if I insist a lot he does it barely and it would be better if I had done myself cause the dishes will be super dirty. Yesterday we went to the supermarket and we forgot the milk as usual (always the milk) and he had to come back, he gave me a really hard time like always. I mean, hello? We got to do what we got to do right? And that's it, there's not much to discuss about it or make a fuss... he is always super over dramatic about any house tasks. All he wants to do its sit his lazy butt in front of the PC or the TV and play games. on his time off of work.
I work too and make the same money as him, only I have to work less than him, but I don't think that gives him the right not to even put his plate on the sink after dinner. He never even feed the baby because takes too long, he might give the bottle and that's it. I cant even leave the baby with him because he wont change the diaper and the baby will be sitting on the chair all day crying next to him. I am so tired of he's way of dealing with things I wish I could just leave him, and be by myself. But there are too much expenses right now. The thing is that he is using a lot of coursing language and that is not good for the baby especially. He is really selfish and likes to start a fight in public, calling me annoying bit** and telling me to shut the fu** up in front of people in supermarket over nothing, really.
Come on what is that? Its a nightmare, its the typical uneducated people behavior when frustrated about something. I feel so ashamed that I turn red. I have no words to describe how much I think its humiliating and awful to share our personal problems with people outside that has nothing to do with it. I feel ridiculous, and after he cooled down of he's craziness he never says he's sorry about it, not that I can find a way in my heart to forgive this over and over, its pathetic. Even he's mom is so disappointed with him, she tells me he was always selfish. I should have known that he was trouble since the beginning because he seemed so immature on the way he interpreted feelings and peoples behavior. He simply cant take a look inside, he thinks he's the nice cute funny and charming guy and he actually tells me that if I leave him it would be so easy for him to date even hotter girls than me. That I am actually starting to look old. Hello I'm 25 ***hole, and I am a lady who is raising your baby with love and doing everything she can to make it all worthwhile for our family. And just for the record, most of his friends make fun of him telling him that the baby is only cute because he's wife is pretty. I am not an annoying wife who is always complaining and acting insane, also. What does he want, I wonder? He has a destructive behavior that I just cant fix it, I'm not a psychologist and he is not trying at all.
The worst part is that he is so lovely to other people that nobody would have any idea of what a bastard he really is. I deserve better than this, and this is not healthy for my baby. I need to make a move and cant right now. He always destroys moments that were supposed to be nice, like today I don't even feel like cooking turkey and everything for Christmas, it was supposed to be a nice time, my brother is arriving today to stay with us.
This is not what I had in mind, why did I married this guy? I started to think that most of men are secretly bastards who cant deal with the reality of life and live in fantasies of I don't know, an easy life without problems? I just think he lacks of passion for life, he gives up too easily in anything and everything. I'm quite the opposite and I feel like he always tries to hurt my feelings because he is self-destructive. I don't even feel sorry for him anymore. I just wonder, the day I leave him, I really hope he grows up as a person, because there's no woman in this world that would stay with someone so selfish.
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I Hate Men, Okay Maybe I don't Hate Them
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| The Big Mama Introspection |
1. First of all men do not have to go through monthly pains in there abdomen aka. cramps! ( and lets just say this is the first one the list because I'm going through this situation at the moment and it is not the funnest thing to go through. >:( and even if there aren't no cramps there is still your monthly visitor!
2. Even though I am not a mother yet I will be one day. And when that day comes it will be excruciating pain, and lets just say I wont look forward to the pain. And guess what?! All a man has to contribute is his penis! He has no pain, no cravings, no nausea, no crazy hormones that cause all types of emotions, no baby fat afterwards. Lets just say he gets the fun part of creating life.
3. Men don't get judged as much as women do for their behavior. A man can be gross, smelly and burp in public, and of course everyone around him will be like ewww nasty. But if a women does it, OMG ITS THE END OF THE WORLD. You can hear the whispering around her, "eww she is so not a lady", "She has no lady manners" what the hell! Before I use to think there was just manners, but lady manners? Aren't manners for everyone? Not just ladies! agh just gets me so mad, its gross I know but its equally as gross and rude from a women and a man. So why is it worst when a women does it? Its coming from the same place right? -____-
4. Men get to sleep around without any judgement. The more he sleeps with the greater his ego. But a women that sleeps around well she's seen by society as a dirty evil fucken slut. (excuse my language) Oh I forgot to mention she will rot in hell ;) Another bogus idea! Its the same thing! there doing the same thing why is she bad and why is man admired for the same action?! Sometimes I just don't understand society and there stupid ideas.
You see people I don't really hate men everyday just sometimes, that sometimes being when I start thinking about why things are the way they are. And its not just the men's fault that things are seen this way but also women's fault. Why? Because some women think the same way, that a man should behave one way and a women another way.
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Why Women Hate Men
Why Women Hate Men: Then God made man,
And she said,
"Why did you do this to us?"
It's too common that men get blamed for all of the emotional and mechanical
errors when it comes to women. Can you blame them? Of all the horrendous and
nightmarish memories we've scarred them with for years and years? Of all the
heartaches, pains and the way we trashed our women from today and yesterday, can
you be upset at them? It's harder being on the outside looking in, isn't it?
More common than we believe, women are more so misjudged and wrongfully accused of characteristics they have no affiliation with: If she gives her number too fast she's probably a slut, if she doesn't give her phone number she's a stuck up bitch, if she doesn't want to have sex she's faking, if she doesn't want to go out after the first date she's a gold digger, if she enjoys hanging around the house on most nights she's a goodie-two-shoes and if she's busy she's a liar; pick your poison. Most men if not all have said these things at a time or two in their lives. It's not a natural phase, just a misunderstanding of something many men haven't taken the time to learn about.
If she tries to speak, she's talking too much. When she tries to express her feelings, she's blowing it out of proportion. If she doesn't want to talk about it she's holding out, when she says she needs some space, she's seeing another man. If she has classes in the morning, she doesn't have time for me anymore. More poison to choose? No wonder why so many women hate our men's guts.
We here the typical male dialect about women, but is it true? We here how our men talk about women so badly, but what's the purpose? Men think they know woman, but we dont have any idea what's it like to be one. From the amount of time it takes to style up for a potential good date, to the occasional pain of a monthly menstrual cycle, to learning how to balance in high heels, there's nothing to hold back about it. Give these women credit! They have their share of problems to grip.
Face it men, we'll never be able to fully grasp the state of being. We'll never know what it's like to be hit on and followed everyday by huge and gruesome looking perverts, stalked by the geeky internet-boy next door, declined a promotion or lose a job because our boss wanted to flirt and be sexual but we declined and got fired, we'll never know how it feels to have to spend 3 hours preparing for a 45 minute luncheon, bleeding genitalia, we never wonder if the person were dating is planning to kidnap us, if the person were visiting is going to rape us, if the son a glitch standing behind us going to sexually harass us, dodging sexual predators and we'll never know what it's like to be stared at and treated as if were sex symbols when all we really want is someone to notice us for who we are. Most men have never experienced these things and have no idea what that could feel like after a while.
Think about love. How it can be happy, leaving you peaceful and chatty, uplifting you to levels you thought you'd never reach. Yet at the same time, heartbreaking - frightening, a scary & panicky ball all wrapped up into one tortilla shell. But even after all that heartache and pain, a handful of our women still love us, even though they hate us. They lay low for a while, recharge, and next thing you know there back at it again. Others may actually give up or seek interest in same sex partners.
So when you put all the pieces together; taking one final look at the picture, can we blame them? Why do you think women hate men so much? Are we men just totally innocent beings and they are antagonists who defy our existence? Is it because were always right and they're always wrong? Is it because we know everything, and we are superior to them? No However,
I hope to have some answer(s) for you by the time you finish reading this.
"So why do you think we hate you so much?" she asked me.
I took a huge gulp, knowing I had no other choice than to tell the truth.
"… Because... we made it that way."
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And she said,
"Why did you do this to us?"
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| A Whole Lot of Nothing |
More common than we believe, women are more so misjudged and wrongfully accused of characteristics they have no affiliation with: If she gives her number too fast she's probably a slut, if she doesn't give her phone number she's a stuck up bitch, if she doesn't want to have sex she's faking, if she doesn't want to go out after the first date she's a gold digger, if she enjoys hanging around the house on most nights she's a goodie-two-shoes and if she's busy she's a liar; pick your poison. Most men if not all have said these things at a time or two in their lives. It's not a natural phase, just a misunderstanding of something many men haven't taken the time to learn about.
If she tries to speak, she's talking too much. When she tries to express her feelings, she's blowing it out of proportion. If she doesn't want to talk about it she's holding out, when she says she needs some space, she's seeing another man. If she has classes in the morning, she doesn't have time for me anymore. More poison to choose? No wonder why so many women hate our men's guts.
We here the typical male dialect about women, but is it true? We here how our men talk about women so badly, but what's the purpose? Men think they know woman, but we dont have any idea what's it like to be one. From the amount of time it takes to style up for a potential good date, to the occasional pain of a monthly menstrual cycle, to learning how to balance in high heels, there's nothing to hold back about it. Give these women credit! They have their share of problems to grip.
Face it men, we'll never be able to fully grasp the state of being. We'll never know what it's like to be hit on and followed everyday by huge and gruesome looking perverts, stalked by the geeky internet-boy next door, declined a promotion or lose a job because our boss wanted to flirt and be sexual but we declined and got fired, we'll never know how it feels to have to spend 3 hours preparing for a 45 minute luncheon, bleeding genitalia, we never wonder if the person were dating is planning to kidnap us, if the person were visiting is going to rape us, if the son a glitch standing behind us going to sexually harass us, dodging sexual predators and we'll never know what it's like to be stared at and treated as if were sex symbols when all we really want is someone to notice us for who we are. Most men have never experienced these things and have no idea what that could feel like after a while.
Think about love. How it can be happy, leaving you peaceful and chatty, uplifting you to levels you thought you'd never reach. Yet at the same time, heartbreaking - frightening, a scary & panicky ball all wrapped up into one tortilla shell. But even after all that heartache and pain, a handful of our women still love us, even though they hate us. They lay low for a while, recharge, and next thing you know there back at it again. Others may actually give up or seek interest in same sex partners.
So when you put all the pieces together; taking one final look at the picture, can we blame them? Why do you think women hate men so much? Are we men just totally innocent beings and they are antagonists who defy our existence? Is it because were always right and they're always wrong? Is it because we know everything, and we are superior to them? No However,
I hope to have some answer(s) for you by the time you finish reading this.
"So why do you think we hate you so much?" she asked me.
I took a huge gulp, knowing I had no other choice than to tell the truth.
"… Because... we made it that way."
Text taken from Yahoo Contributor Network, visit to read more
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