I Have a Lazy Ungrateful Husband

I have a lazy ungrateful husband:  My husband can't deal with life reality

Hello everybody, I just need to let this out somehow, sorry about the bad English, Ill make a few mistakes cause its not my native language. I'm married to a Quebecois and I'm away from my family, but that its not a big problem to me. We have a baby of 9 months and he is the most pretty little guy, he is very expressive, very happy and its very loved by us.

The things is that my husband is lately turning into that type of man that has this face like everything is preventing him to have his own life, like he wish he was somewhere else. Whenever I ask him any favor (throwing the garbage, cleaning dishes, if I ever do!) he says in a while at first and if I insist a lot he does it barely and it would be better if I had done myself cause the dishes will be super dirty. Yesterday we went to the supermarket and we forgot the milk as usual (always the milk) and he had to come back, he gave me a really hard time like always. I mean, hello? We got to do what we got to do right? And that's it, there's not much to discuss about it or make a fuss... he is always super over dramatic about any house tasks. All he wants to do its sit his lazy butt in front of the PC or the TV and play games. on his time off of work.

I work too and make the same money as him, only I have to work less than him, but I don't think that gives him the right not to even put his plate on the sink after dinner. He never even feed the baby because takes too long, he might give the bottle and that's it. I cant even leave the baby with him because he wont change the diaper and the baby will be sitting on the chair all day crying next to him. I am so tired of he's way of dealing with things I wish I could just leave him, and be by myself. But there are too much expenses right now. The thing is that he is using a lot of coursing language and that is not good for the baby especially. He is really selfish and likes to start a fight in public, calling me annoying bit** and telling me to shut the fu** up in front of people in supermarket over nothing, really.

Come on what is that? Its a nightmare, its the typical uneducated people behavior when frustrated about something. I feel so ashamed that I  turn red. I have no words to describe how much I think its humiliating and awful to share our personal problems with people outside that has nothing to do with it. I feel ridiculous, and after he cooled down of he's craziness he never says he's sorry about it, not that I can find a way in my heart to forgive this over and over, its pathetic. Even he's mom is so disappointed with him, she tells me he was always selfish. I should have known that he was trouble since the beginning because he seemed so immature on the way he interpreted feelings and peoples behavior. He simply cant take a look inside, he thinks he's the nice cute funny and charming guy and he actually tells me that if I leave him it would be so easy for him to date even hotter girls than me. That I am actually starting to look old. Hello I'm 25 ***hole, and I am a lady who is raising your baby with love and doing everything she can to make it all worthwhile for our family. And just for the record, most of his friends make fun of him telling him that the baby is only cute because he's wife is pretty. I am not an annoying wife who is always complaining and acting insane, also. What does he want, I wonder?  He has a destructive behavior that I just cant fix it, I'm not a psychologist and he is not trying at all.

The worst part is that he is so lovely to other people that nobody would have any idea of what a bastard he really is. I deserve better than this, and this is not healthy for my baby. I need to make a move and cant right now. He always destroys moments that were supposed to be nice, like today I don't even feel like cooking turkey and everything for Christmas, it was supposed to be a nice time, my brother is arriving today to stay with us.

This is not what I had in mind, why did I married this guy? I started to think that most of men are secretly bastards who cant deal with the reality of life and live in fantasies of I don't know, an easy life without problems? I just think he lacks of passion for life, he gives up too easily in anything and everything. I'm quite the opposite and I feel like he always tries to hurt my feelings because he is self-destructive. I don't even feel sorry for him anymore. I just wonder, the day I leave him, I really hope he grows up as a person, because there's no woman in this world that would stay with someone so selfish.

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